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riendless in a crowded city? Feeling lonely in spite of the myriad of activities available in the bustle that surrounds you? Surprised at how lonely life is now that you’re ‘all growed up’, especially since your younger self had no problem making friends? Is it harder and harder to get together with the pals you do have and enjoy a really good time like you used to?
Many things get better as we age… but one thing that gets progressively worse is our ability to make new friends. *
Perhaps we thought that. . .
… Having spouses/children/colleagues would fill the friendship slot. Not always—the companion who works long hours six days a week, or who travels many months of the year, or whose vacation ‘away from it all’ includes slipping in time each morning to answer emails and respond to a phone call or two, or the partner who’s too tired at the end of a 75-hour workweek to want to do anything but watch TV and eat snacks…
… The pandemic didn’t help matters! Working from home meant/means no office mates to confab with over lunch about the number of files yet to be resolved, or to enjoy the bumpy ride home with from the oilfield in the boss’ old Cessna, or to bellyache to about how your little tyke kept you awake all night…
Yet, making friends is a problem that predates the Covid pandemic!
In 2012, Vancouver’s mayor launched a task force to combat loneliness in the city. . .
In 2017, the U.S. Surgeon General declared a loneliness epidemic. . .
In 2018, the U.K. appointed the world’s first Loneliness Minister. *